My colleague just received a bouquet of flowers from her husband of her few months..Awww, how romantic was everybody's first thoughts, including mine. It was apparently for some anniversary which she couldnt even remember initially, and one would think it is normally the females who keep track of such things and males who forget. Anyway, I thought it was quite sweet of the husband to always send flowers to the office(yeah,its not the first),and even after marriage where the norm is for guys to woo the girls with flowers during courtship and stop after marriage.

I don't know what is it about flowers that make girls melt. Granted, it is lovely,but in a few days, all that would be left is a bunch of dried and withered flowers, but that hasnt stopped guys from sending and girls from hoping to receive. I guess its the romanticism of it all, and the gesture and perhaps the unexpectedness of it,which brings with it the element of surprise. Personally, I feel that flowers are quite an extravagant commodity, and the money can probably be put to a better use, like a nice dinner, or a gift that lasts. After all, flowers are pretty much useless, only meant for admiring. Thats the practical side of me speaking. I am actually quite ambivalent about it. I would probably love to receive flowers as much as anyone else. The few times I received flowers,err..actually the only time I received flowers this valentine, I was so unexpectedly thrilled,though it was just from a friend. My point? I don't know,just blogging about something other than the daily reports of exploits in bugis and chocolates...

And while I am on a roll,I also want to blog about the importance of communication in a relationship or the lack thereof, cos my colleague and I were talking about it just now. Many couples often break up as a result of the lack of communication in a relationship. I feel it is very important to let the other party know how much you care and not just take it for granted that he or she knows, especially after being together for a long period of time, and also being able to maintain the 'lovey-doveyness' of the honeymoon period at the start of the relationship. Another thing is also not to expect your partner to know what is on your mind, no one is that psychic. If you want something, or feel displeased about his actions or anything, you've gotta tell him because he won't ever know how you feel if you don't tell him. And he would continue doing the things that displeases you and you might be able to tolerate it at first, givin in and all, but there would come a day where everything accumulates and reach your breaking point and you just errupt and the damage done might be irreparable.

My biggest problem is that I have always been unable to voice out my dissatisfaction,preferring to keep it within me, be it with my parents or my friends. When I am unhappy, I simply withdraw,expecting people to know I am unhappy. I don't know where I got that trait from, probably from being an only child as I have never had anyone to confide in. My mother, on the other hand, never hesitates to say whatever that is on her mind without mincing her words and thus can be potentially hurtful, I have been the recipient of it many a times..hahah..so being direct is not that good either.

It is definitely not easy to maintain a relationship. It requires lots of patience, love and effort. But its definitely worth it, is it not?