I was chatting to a friend the other day and we were talking about relationships. She told me that another friend, X, had been cheated on by her boyfriend. The boyfriend had apparently gone on a holiday with that other girl, on the pretext of wanting sometime alone( that bastard). X, of course, was devastated and did not eat or drink or do anything for quite some time, but closed herself out from everybody else who tried to help her.

I was quite shocked when she told me about it as firstly, the boyfriend is not that much of a looker. There goes the stereotyope that only good looking guys can be unfaithful. And secondly, I feel very strongly about infidelity. In a relationship, the most important thing is to stay true to each other. If you like someone else, break off the relationship before embarking on a new one cos its not fair to both parties. X, though her heart was broken, still cares for him and has forgiven him. I think it is really magnanimous of her. I think if the same thing happened to me, I won't ever ever forgive the person,so strongly do I feel about this. I would be too hurt, too betrayed, and if it can happen once, it can happen again. I won't hate the person,it takes too much energy to hate, but I won't have anything more to do with him, ever again.

But maybe I am being too simplistic. Maybe it would be different in a marriage. After all, how often have you heard of wives forgiving their hisband after they stray. If you truly love your husband, your would fight for him and the marriage. But would it be the same,or would there always be this unspoken thing hanging in the air, this gap that forever cannot be closed.

Poor X, I hope she moves on soon, and get that B*** out of her head and find someone more worthy of her. No man is worth shedding so much tears for, especially one that broke her heart, right? Again, I am speaking from my head and not my heart. Matters of the heart is actually more complicated than that, you can control what you think, but you can't control what you feel